Chapter 62: Gay male sex sometimes just happens

Early on in our relationship Kory and I saw ourselves as a long-term couple. We followed recommended procedures of using condoms, getting tested, and then getting tested again six months later to accommodate the limitations of existing HIV tests. …

Chapter 61: Losses and Gains

My story so far has focused on my realizing I’m gay, coming out after years of straight marriage and children, falling in love and marrying a man, and my gradual embrace of political activism. I even met President Obama at the White House.

Now we come to something sad and…

Chapter 60: Going for Broke

After decades of living in the closet as a “straight” married man, I found the courage to come out, to pursue love, and even to go public as an advocate for equality in my native New Orleans. After I became involved in an unsuccessful effort in the 1990s to overturn…

Chapter 59: Activism

By mid-1992, I had everything I could hope for: I was publicly out after decades in the closet, I had love, a prosperous career, and a family that seemed to be surviving despite what I had done to them. …

Chapter 57: Second adolescence

30 yo SWM, sandy hair, hazel eyes, 5’10”, 140 pounds, considered attractive, enjoys good times, seeks similar for friendship or more

So read the IMPACT personal ad that caught my eye in October of 1991, soon after I came out as gay to my wife and kids, and moved out…

Chapter 56: Gay in waiting no more

After a lifetime of living as a straight man, marrying and having three children, the reality of my gay sexual orientation almost brought me to my knees. Somehow, I found the strength to come out to my wife and then my kids. …

Chapter 55: A new life

Recently out as gay to my law partner, wife, and children, I felt I had lost my family in a bargain with the desired unknown. That was true. My old life was over and gone. …

Chapter 54: The Other Side Of The Closet

As difficult as my overdue coming-out was for me, it must have been magnitudes worse for my family. While I was feeling relief and hope, their most important relationships were under siege and in peril.

For another perspective, here is a piece my daughter Erin contributed two years later for…

Chapter 53: The price of coming out

After seeing the folly of my love for a beautiful young male sex worker, I struggled for days without success to regain a sense of stability. I remained stunned, depressed, and occasionally panic-stricken, but had to pretend nothing was amiss until I could formulate a plan. I thought about returning…

Laurence Best

Larry Best is a retired trial lawyer who writes about the alienation that led him into the closet until he was 42 years old and his life since coming out

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