Thought provoking read. My children and grandchildren don't talk to me about sex either and my sons have made it clear that "kids don't want to hear about their parents" sex lives."

I felt like you; that they needed to know all of me and it was the main reason I wrote my memoir. However, my sons' favorite chapters are the ones about girls; go figure. I don't even know if they read the explicit gay stuff, but I kinda doubt it.

All that said, we do have close relationships and are never at a loss of words with one another even though they're straight and I'm gay. They know how much I love them.

But discussing my gay sex life with my parents when they were alive would have been a bridge too far. My dad died in 1979 when I was still married to my wife and had never had sex with a man anyway. I did come out to my mom in 1991 and gave her some books to help her understand. She became quite proud of my political activism, but I cannot imagine talking sex with her anymore than my sons can with me.

I think you are breaking new ground here, to your credit. It will bring you all closer.