The entire piece resonated. But in my current frame of mind I focused on friends and family who effectively demand I give them a pass for their politics or bad manners or whatever simply because "We supported you when you came out" as if that was some kind of permanent get out of jail free card. I am baffled about how to respond to that effectively and need to prepare a ready response. It signifies mere tolerance and disguises homophobia. Thank you for focusing me.